And he’s right of course. In a way. The authoritarian uses the power of the state to prevent me from say being Jewish. The liberal uses the power of the state to prevent you from burning down my synagogue. Both the authoritarian and the liberal use power: the one to prevent going to a synagogue, the other to prevent burning one.
And of course he’s wrong in a way.
Supposing you had a pushy friend. Whenever you go over to your friend’s house he makes you eat a burger. You’re not allowed to ask for anything else. So you complain. I don’t always want to eat burgers!
So your friend he calls you up the night before you go over for dinner and says “What would you like to eat for dinner tomorrow? Pizza, omelette, tandoor fish. Just tell me what you want. I’ll give you that!” And then you say “Would you stop pushing me around?”
And he says “What pushing? I’m saying you can have whatever you want!” And you say, “Now you’re forcing me to have whatever I want! Yesterday you were forcing me to have a burger. Today you’re forcing me to have “whatever I want”.
I think your friend would be right to conclude, you are hard to keep as a friend.