Yes, yes it is very tempting. If your life has been frustrating (and whose hasn’t?)its tempting, sure it is to decide to grow up the son as a weapon against those who have humiliated you. He’s young and strong and courageous. Teach him to do anything to win! Don’t. The world is complicated and faces real problems. Brain tumors. Globalism. Climate change. If you raise your son just to win he will not try to solve those problems — which require cooperation– and will resort to “Anything for a win” — lying, short-cuts, p.r., backstabbing, gas. Not a good legacy for you! Teach him to make everybody a winner! Teach him to make the whole world a winner! Otherwise he will contribute to the problems. Otherwise he will be checker champion on the Titanic! And be hollow inside. And deep down hate you.